Your opening idea is important:
The problem is not necessarily paying attention.
That's a good distinction. Someone with ADHD may actually be paying a lot of attention, but have difficulty regulating and directing that attention.
For example, when several things need doing at once:
Brain: "Which thing should I start with?"
ADHD: "Everything is important! Start now!"
That can make a long list of ordinary tasks feel overwhelming.
"Wait" versus "Jump in"
Your metaphor works particularly well here:
Brain: "Wait."
ADHD: "Jump in!"
This can help explain impulsivity.
Interrupting someone isn't necessarily because the person doesn't care about what the other person is saying. They may suddenly have a thought and worry:
"If I don't say it now, I'm going to forget it."
That doesn't mean the interruption can't be frustrating or rude to another person. The behaviour can have an impact even when there was no intention to be rude.
That's an important distinction for your book:
Intent: "I didn't mean to interrupt."
Impact: "The other person felt interrupted."
Both can be true.
๐ซ Your classroom example
This is probably one of the strongest examples in this section.
Imagine the situation:
- The class is busy.
- The teacher is writing on the board.
- The teacher is about to erase the information.
- The student hasn't finished copying everything.
- The student has their hand up.
- Other students are being answered first.
- The student is becoming increasingly worried.
- They suddenly call, "Miss!"
- The teacher says, "Wait your turn!"
- The student responds, "I want to wait my turn, Miss, but I'm so behind in my work."
There is something really important happening here.
From the teacher's perspective, the student appears to be interrupting.
From the student's perspective, they may be thinking:
"If I don't say something now, the information will disappear from the board and I won't have finished copying it."
So the same behaviour can be interpreted very differently.
This is where a support tutor can make a difference
A support tutor could help the student with things such as:
- organising written work
- identifying what information is most important
- making sure instructions have been understood
- helping the student catch up when they fall behind
- breaking larger tasks into smaller steps
- developing strategies for remembering appointments and deadlines
- communicating with the teacher when appropriate
- helping the student understand classroom expectations
The tutor isn't doing the work for the student.
The tutor is helping remove barriers that make the work harder to manage.
๐ญ "You're smart, but not smart enough"
This part is particularly powerful:
They are told they are smart, but they are also told they are not smart enough.
That can create a confusing message for a student.
A student might hear:
"You're intelligent."
But then repeatedly experience:
"You didn't finish."
"You weren't listening."
"Why did you forget?"
"Wait your turn."
"You need to try harder."
"You're capable of better than this."
Eventually, the student may begin wondering:
"If I'm really smart, why can't I do what everyone else seems able to do?"
That's an important issue to explore because intelligence and executive functioning are not the same thing.
Someone can understand the subject extremely well and still struggle with:
- starting the task
- organising materials
- remembering instructions
- estimating how long something will take
- switching between tasks
- controlling impulses
- remembering deadlines
- keeping track of multiple pieces of information
So difficulty demonstrating knowledge isn't necessarily the same as lack of knowledge.
๐ This could become a great teaching point
I'd frame the classroom example around "What the teacher sees vs. what the student experiences."
| What the teacher may see | What the student may experience |
|---|---|
| Interrupting | Fear of forgetting the thought |
| Not finishing notes | Can't copy quickly enough |
| Not listening | Trying to process several things at once |
| Forgetting homework | Difficulty with working memory/organisation |
| Starting too quickly | Difficulty controlling impulses |
| Looking disorganised | Difficulty managing multiple tasks |
| Calling out | Anxiety about falling further behind |
That doesn't mean every behaviour should be excused because someone has ADHD. Your earlier statement that ADHD isn't an excuse for bad behaviour is important.
Rather, understanding the reason behind a behaviour allows teachers to respond constructively instead of simply assuming the student is lazy, rude, careless, or unintelligent.
And that's a very strong connection to the wider purpose of your book: understanding the person behind the behaviour.